Saturday, April 21, 2018

First "Challenge": Xylitol

Things were going well with my low FODMaP eating plan, I was feeling good with my symptoms reduced, oh, 80% or so. Then I went back on my supplements. I take B12 (when you get older you don't absorb it as well from food so a supplement is beneficial), vitamin D (I had blood work that said I was deficient), and pro-biotics. After a few days I started feeling a heaviness in my lower belly area, which wasn't a good sign. The next day I was back to pre-diet pain levels and almost didn't go to an event I was looking forward to. (I went anyway and I got through it!! I was distracted with the great people I was able to talk to so I didn't focus on the pain as much, and I was very thankful I wasn't gassy.) Later that night I was trying to figure out what I could be doing wrong, what was I eating that I shouldn't? Light bulb- check the B12! It's a chewable so they put sweeteners in it, and sure enough, xylitol, which is a polyol, was on the label. (The "P" part of FODMaP.)

That counts as my first "challenge"! I didn't do it on purpose, but at least I figured it out. So I was eating cherries and honey AND taking the supplement with xylitol in it every morning. Good grief. Now I'm wondering about the cherries and honey though, were they really the problem? Maybe they were, but I'll have to challenge with them later to find out. Right now I have to wait and get the xylitol out of my system and get my symptoms back under control again. Sigh...

What this points out, though, is how difficult it is to tease out what's causing symptoms. I took the B12 for four or five days before it started to bother me, and my worst day was when I had a late breakfast one day then an early breakfast the next. I take my supplements with my breakfast, so it was less than 24 hours between doses. Some triggers are OK in small amounts, or when they are spaced out far enough. They cause symptoms only after building up in your system.

I've posted about IBS and this low FODMaP eating plan on Facebook a few times and now so many people are talking to me about also having IBS, or telling me their loved ones have IBS. Statistics as to how many people have IBS vary from 10 to 25% of the population, and since so many people are undiagnosed, or wait years before getting diagnosed, the 25% is probably more accurate. That's a quarter of the population!! Of course lots of people have it or know someone who has it!! We need to talk about these things more. Eating a low FODMaP diet will be so much easier if more people are talking about it and looking for low FODMaP food; there are organizations that will certify processed food as low FODMaP. Look at the gluten free craze and how many gluten free products there are now! The thing is- for people with IBS and not celiac disease or gluten allergies specifically, going gluten free helps them by cutting out not the gluten but the fructans that are in wheat. So they feel better, and they think it's because they are gluten free, but really it's due to cutting out a FODMaP.

My advice from everything I've researched- if you are having intestinal issues, stomach pain, not-normal bowel habits, gas, bloating, etc., go to your doctor. If your doctor rules out Crohn's, colitis, cancer, celiac disease, etc., and gives you a diagnosis of IBS, then try the low FODMaP eating plan. If the doctor gives you the same print out mine gave me, don't despair!! The "good" list and the "bad" list on that print out are very short. You can eat a lot more than it says, and there are lots of resources on-line to help you out. It helps to eat whole foods and cook for yourself, but you have to know which whole foods to eat and which to avoid. Eating out and processed foods will be difficult- I haven't faced that yet, but I'll learn as I go! (Eating out is something I'll have to talk to a dietitian about.) It's possible to get through this, and 80% of people with IBS feel better when they know what to eat and what to avoid. Sometimes it will be "damn the torpedoes", I'll eat what I want and suffer the consequences, but at least I'll know why I'm hurting and will keep it to a once in a while splurge when I can recuperate the next day.

PS: I mentioned that the doctor recommended daily Zantac in my last post. I only took it for a day or two then I was feeling so much better I stopped taking it!! :) I'm taking the pro-biotics she suggested every day.

Saturday, April 14, 2018

Time to Fire Up the Blog Again!! Low FODMaP Reports

It's been almost two years!! Hello again! A lot has happened in the intervening time, but what I want to write about now is my experience going on a low FODMaP elimination diet. I first heard about the low FODMaP diet on an episode of "The Food Hospital" several years ago. (Go to about 25:20 to get to the IBS part, the follow up is at about 36:30). I don't know why I didn't try it then, maybe my symptoms weren't too bad at that point? I was definitely diagnosed as having IBS by then. I forgot about it and went along with life, but then I've recently experienced some severe flare ups. I thought it must be something else, maybe I have an ulcer from taking an NSAID every day for arthritis and fibromyalgia, or gallstones, or whatever, since this was so much worse than flare ups in the past. I had a bout of food poisoning (??) back in late December and just never felt right in my stomach since then, so maybe it was from that. I had my suspicions, but no definite answers, and my stomach was hurting all the time. I went to my GP and she referred me to a gastro doctor (and getting in to see her was a whole different story for another time- it was quite an ordeal). While waiting months for that appointment I had such bad diarrhea (sorry, when talking about IBS these things come up) that I wound up at urgent care, then they sent me to the ER for a CT scan and IV fluids. Fortunately my gastro appointment was within a week and a half of all of that. When I went in to see her she immediately zeroed in on the IBS as a source of the pain, no mention of an ulcer or gallstones, and came up with a treatment plan. She told me to go on a low FODMaP diet, take Zantac twice a day, and take pro-biotics. She gave me a print out with a list of OK foods and a list of high FODMaP foods to avoid. A very short list. A very limited list. A very discouraging list.

Luckily we have the internet!!! I immediately started researching and found longer lists of things to eat, although there is some conflicting information out there, but whatever, I had a place to start. I ordered a couple of e-books, and found that the research for the low FODMaP diet originated at Monash University in Australia. I've been watching You Tube videos as well, anything I can find on following the low FODMaP eating plan. Here's what I've learned, some of my experiences, and some things I'm eating!

1. FODMaP stands for Fermentable Oligosaccharides, Disaccharides, Monosaccharides, And Polyols. These are foods that don't digest properly for a large number of people with IBS. These carbohydrate chains are supposed to break down in your small intestines but they don't, so they move into your large intestines where two things happen. Due to osmosis and your body trying to balance out the liquids in your bowels, excess water is drawn in to compensate for all of the extra molecules of these carbs floating around where they aren't supposed to be. In addition, the bacteria that live in your large intestine party on all of the extra food, and when they party they produce gas. Lots and lots of gas. The combination of the extra water and the extra gas cause bloating, diarrhea, distention, and, just for fun, lots of stinky farts. Oh, joy!

2. I recently switched up my morning breakfast. I typically eat the same breakfast every single day of the world, just because it's easy and I don't have to think about it. I mix things up once in a blue moon, and I recently switched from packets of oatmeal to quick oats. I would have two packets, one plain and one sweetened with maple syrup. When I switched to plain quick oats I started using honey as my sweetener. I also pile on fruit and a few months ago I changed from frozen strawberries to frozen cherries. (I like the frozen fruit because it keeps so much longer, plus it makes a nice contrast between the hot oatmeal and the cold fruit.) Now that I'm learning about FODMaPs, I realized I was hitting my tummy with a double whammy first thing in the morning. Both honey AND cherries are high in FODMaPs!! So all of that misery was self inflicted. I did try to switch things up- I was adding walnuts but I thought the nuts were too harsh so I stopped that, I thought maybe the supplements I was taking were the problem so I stopped those, I stopped my daily NSAID, I tried eating mild foods the rest of the day, (although the "mild" food I was eating was also high in FODMaPs), but my stomach still hurt. I kind of thought maybe the cherries, but I never suspected the honey until I got the list of high FODMaP food. Both cherries and honey!! Sheese. Also the mild foods I was trying? Yep, high FODMaPs. Pasta, toast, crackers, etc. I was doing it wrong.

3. When the doctor gave me the print out for the low FODMaP eating plan, it didn't come with much explanation. There is a list of food on the front, half low FODMaP allowed foods, half high FODMaP foods to avoid, and a couple of short paragraphs of explanation on the back. It just isn't enough information to radically change your eating habits, but it was a start. I googled other FODMaP lists and went to the grocery because I wanted to start right away. I'm sick and tired of being in pain all the time, and if this was going to help I wanted to go for it! It's been less than a week so far and I think I've done quite well, if I do say so myself. I have a few things going for me, though. I've taken coursework in nutrition and I'm certified to teach health so I have the background to implement this eating plan without consulting a nutritionist, at least not to start out with. (I may do that later because I think it's a good idea, I just don't need to rush it.) I also cook my own food most of the time, even in a family of 5. We all eat so differently! My oldest is vegan, my husband is vegetarian, my son is super picky, and my middle child has a completely different schedule than the rest of us. My kitchen is always a disaster with 5 people in there preparing meals every day, but it means I'm used to cooking for myself. I also have some food sensitivities that I've known about for a while (soy and sulfates) so I'm used to reading labels and working around common ingredients, and I hate most processed food. I can't stand microwave meals, for instance, so giving up that type of food is not an issue for me at all. I cook with whole foods as much as possible, so this eating plan just means switching up the high FODMaP whole foods for low FODMaP whole foods. Not a big deal. My breakfast, for instance- I went back to frozen strawberries instead of frozen cherries (I also throw on some fresh blueberries every day since they're in season now and they're low FODMaP) and use plain sugar (just a little bit) as my sweetener. I also throw on some raisins (the FODMaP lists say up to a tablespoon of raisins is OK) and I've added back my walnuts, but only 10, because any more might cause some FODMaP issues. (Portion size affects the FODMaP load too- there are some foods that are OK in small amounts.)

4. The low FODMaP eating plan (which is actually a more accurate description that "diet", because the goal isn't weight loss, the goal is to feel better) is a temporary elimination food plan. You go on it and let your body heal from the damage you've been doing with high FODMaP foods, then the goal is to slowly "challenge" with various categories of high FODMaP foods to determine which ones you are OK with and which ones are a problem for you. From my research, the elimination phase can last anywhere from 2 to 8 weeks, depending on how you react to it. I'm already feeling so much better (I think from just giving up the cherries and honey!!) so I may be able to start challenging pretty quickly. I'll write more about the challenge stage when I get there.

5. I've started eating tomatoes and salad again- hooray!! When my stomach started hurting all the time I gave up salads because maybe roughage was the problem? I can enjoy them again because tomatoes and lettuce are low FODMaP foods, which makes me very happy, because I was eating salads as a meal several times every week. I did have to rethink my salad dressing, but I found a recipe for a homemade version that's OK. I had to give up avocados, which is a favorite food for me (but they are OK in very small quantities so I think I'll try that and see how I do), but other than that my salads are pretty much the same. I even found some fantastic gluten free crackers that I can crumble up and use as croutons. (Gluten isn't the problem for IBS sufferers, it's the wheat itself which contains fructans, an oligosaccharide, so gluten free products are sometimes accidentally low in FODMaPs, but you have to read the label. They could also be sweetened with honey, for instance, or contain other problem ingredients.)

What I've been eating:
Breakfast:
I follow package directions to cook half a cup of oatmeal in the microwave with a pinch of salt. Once that's cooked, I sprinkle on some cinnamon to taste and maybe a teaspoon of sugar, if that, and mix that in. I add a tablespoon of raisins, 10 walnut halves broken up, and about half a cup of berries. Lately it's been the frozen strawberries, some blueberries, and for the past few days I even included some raspberries since I found a nice package of them at the grocery.

Lunches and Dinners:
I have to pair these up because lunch one day is dinner the next, or vice versa- dinner one day is lunch the next! *See note below regarding pairing up meals; not the best idea for the elimination phase!

I like to pre-prep chicken so I have a quick protein ready to go. I saute about a pound and a half of boneless skinless breast or tenders in a frying pan with a small amount of olive oil and season it with salt, pepper, sage, thyme, and marjoram. (I used to use poultry seasoning but that's a no-no because of onion and garlic powder.) I pair that with a carb of some sort. I made up a batch of quinoa (switching from high FODMaP pasta) and used that as my carb a couple of times, once with just the chicken and some glazed carrots, once on a salad. Literally. I had quinoa with chicken and a side of glazed carrots for dinner, then the next day I put the leftover chicken, quinoa, and carrots over lettuce with tomatoes, cucumbers, and orange bits for a salad. Delicious both ways. I found a chicken stock base that doesn't have any garlic or onion listed in the ingredients and used a bit of that to flavor the quinoa when it was cooking, and I almost forgot- I put in a glob when I was cooking the chicken then added water slowly while stirring it into the chicken stock base. I like to do this when the chicken is just about cooked through and let it finish up with some liquid in the pan, which makes it moist and yummy.

Another lunch/dinner combo from today:
I made a baked potato and I wanted beef instead of chicken to top it with, just to mix things up a bit. I always use either 90% or 95% lean ground beef and saute it in a frying pan with olive oil. Today I seasoned it with salt and pepper to taste, then I was going for kind of a chili feel but I'm not big on heat in my food (heat always upsets my tummy) so I just threw in about a third of a can of diced tomatoes at the end of cooking time. The potato was giant so I halved it and added a little bit of cheddar (acceptably low FODMaP since it's a hard cheese) then topped it with half of the beef and tomato mixture. I did the same to the other half and put that away for dinner. It turned out just the way I wanted it!

Snacks:
I absolutely love fruit and I'm pleased that oranges, grapes, and not-super-ripe bananas are low in FODMaPs, so I'm eating those. I have to watch portion sizes though- from what I've read about half a cup or one serving of any kind of fruit is the max that's advisable at any one time. You can have more during the day but it just needs to be spaced out by a few hours to give your body time to digest everything. Popcorn is also OK so that's been a good snack. Corn tortilla chips are OK. I found some allergy friendly cookies that are pretty good too, and they come in individual packets so already portion controlled. I had a small piece of dark chocolate today too- yum. Those gluten free crackers (linked above) are great as well. Today I even had bread! According to Monash University, sourdough bread is acceptable in small quantities, depending on the ingredients it's made with. Whole Foods had a great sourdough loaf in the bakery today with very few ingredients, including whole grain flour. Apparently the fermentation process sourdough goes through breaks down the problem carbs in wheat so it's low in FODMaPs- hooray!!

Shopping:
I scoured the three grocery stores I shop at (Costco, Whole Foods, and Publix) for ingredients. I read a lot of labels, as is my habit anyway. I took a picture of the food lists I was using (from the doctor and one I found on-line) with my phone and referred to those often. Before I went shopping I combed through the lists and starred ingredients I like and crossed out things I don't like, and made sure I was familiar with the list of foods to avoid. I Googled a few items I was unsure of in the store. I am most likely going to get the Monash University app one of these days- it's $9.00 so that's reasonable, and it's apparently invaluable when shopping for low FODMap foods.

I have enough low FODMaP food for a good, varied diet for the next few days so I feel I've made a good start, and I'm only a few days in so I'd say so far, so good!!

*Today, of course, I ran across a video that says it's not good to eat the same thing for two meals in a row because you're getting the same FODMaPs without enough time in between. The suggestion is to wait 24 hours before eating leftovers for a second meal.

Pinterest link: I'm pinning lots of FODMaP info on my Food: Low FODMaP Recipes and Info Board

Sunday, June 12, 2016

Progress!

I'm slowly losing weight again, hooray! It goes on so easily but then takes forever to come off, but it is what it is, so I have to just keep going. I'm about 12 pounds down after 3 and a half months so that's progress!I'm still weighing and measuring my food and will probably have to continue with that for the rest of my life, because when I don't weigh and measure I gain. I haven't been to my exercise classes as consistently as I had hoped but I did go to Zumba twice last week. I was going to go to yoga today but I'm having a bit of a fibro day so I skipped it, plus I realized I don't like group classes when they get over crowded. Zumba classes at 7:00 are super crowded so I'm trying to go at 6:00 now, but the 6:00 classes are on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and EVERY dang blasted evening activity I have to go to (meetings, kids' performances, etc.) seems to fall on a Tuesday lately. It's very frustrating. Yoga is super packed now too so everyone is squeezed in and I feel very uncomfortable with it; I'm a little claustrophobic I suppose. I love the studio I go to and the teacher is the most warm hearted, loving person you could ever hope to meet, but she's really outgrown her space. I'm happy for her that her classes are filling up and it's great that her business is thriving, but I miss the classes with only a few people in them. Sigh...

But other things are afoot these days! I am going back to school AGAIN to take coursework for certification to teach health. I've been considering a Master's degree in nutrition and that is the ultimate goal, but I was thinking about what I want to do with a Master's degree in nutrition, and one of the possibilities was to teach high school. (My fav grades to teach are 11th and 12th.) So, I looked up the requirements to teach health, and I can get that certification with 5 classes, one of which is a nutrition class, so I am taking that and human sexuality in the fall. The nutrition class will enable me to see if that really is something I want to pursue, so things kind of fell in to place. The pre-requisites for the Master's program start with chemistry and I was looking into the chem classes at the local college, but either the professors were horrible (thank you ratemyprofessors.com) or the classes were at a campus on the other side of the county or they started at the crack of dawn. (8:00 am classes? No, thank you!) Or they were on Tuesday nights- absolutely not!! I can try again in January, see what they offer for chemistry for that semester, or over the summer next year, and in the meantime, get that health certification. I'd love to teach high school health! It may kill me due to the fibro, but I would love it until it did. :)

Speaking of things killing me, I'm also going to take Zumba instructor training in July. It's an 8 hour, one day course, but if I take that and update my 1st Aid/CPR training (and I always try to keep that up to date) then I can teach Zumba! How crazy is that?! Me, teaching fitness classes! (If I'm in front of the class I don't have to worry about not being able to see the teacher through the crowds, either.) ;) That's something that will also help with teaching a health class; I need to set a good example, after all. Oh and hey, Zumba is really making a difference- there's a lot of squatting and it's making my legs a lot stronger, and, dare I say it, I think my flat white girl butt is getting a bit more rounded- woo hoo! It's not so great for my feet, but I'm tired of letting my horrible feet determine what I can and can't do. I want to dance so I'm going to dance, dad gummit. I've given up all sorts of dance classes due to my feet and not being able to find the proper dance shoes to fit my water skis, but you use sneakers for Zumba and I can put orthotics in them, so I'm dancing my heart out. Seriously, I've taken classes for ballet, jazz, and belly dancing and had to give up all of them due to the footwear. (Or lack of footwear for belly dancing- my bare feet on a hard surface? No, no no no no no, that did not work.)

So fun things are happening in my life! Losing weight, getting healthy, learning new things. It's all good, and I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to handle it due to the fibro, but I'm sure going to try.

Friday, April 15, 2016

Here We Go Again

After losing 40 pounds in 2007, I kept off most of it for a very long time. I crept up 20 pounds and held there for many years, but recently I regained the rest of it so now it's time to get serious again. To back up a bit, there are reasons why I regained. First of all, vacations. Vacations just did not help in the weight management department, especially when I would say to myself "well, I'll be walking enough to balance out any over-eating", only, yeah, no. Didn't quite work that way. I'd gain 3, 4, maybe 5 pounds (or in the case of a 3 week 2009 trip to Europe, 9 pounds) and then never quite manage to get it back off. The next issue was a two year stint as a vegetarian, and thinking "well, I won't be eating meat, so I can eat all of these starchy carbs to make up my proteins", only, yeah, no. If you are trying to manage your weight as a vegetarian then focus on vegetables and salads, not carbs, carbs, and more carbs. I finally had to go back to meat when I got sick with severe anemia, and then I turned out to be allergic to prescription iron supplements. (I'm actually allergic not to the iron but to the sulfa the iron is mixed with, and ALL of the prescription supplements have it.) Oh, and the anemia made it impossible to lose weight as well, of course. I lost about a year to the anemia and still have to fight not to slip back into it even now. Let me tell you, it's no fun; it sucks the life out of you. I had no energy to do anything; I don't know how I managed to function as much as I did. (The doctors were threatening to put me in the hospital and give me transfusions at one point- I was pretty darn bad off.) So that's my tale of woe with my weight, and the whole time I was watching it go up since I weigh myself every morning when I get up. Every. Morning.

And every morning I would say to myself "today's the day, I'm going to get it together and get back to my goal weight", and sometimes I would manage to lose a pound or two, but I always gained that back plus a little more.

Until now. I'm over the worst of it with the anemia (I hope) and I have a good framework in place for exercise, and I'm back to weighing, measuring, and logging my food, which is key. I've lost about 8 pounds so far and that's very encouraging. I didn't think I could do it many, many times during the past nine years since 2007, but now I am! I feel very resolved and focused, much more than I have in a long, long time.

As for exercise, I am trying to go to Zumba classes (which I absolutely ADORE) twice a week, yoga once a week, (a deep stretch class), archery twice a week, and then walk the dogs most days. I also have some light exercises I try to remember to do daily, a good toe touch stretch, a few squats, some stretches for plantar fasciitis and shoulders to work out the kinks from arthritis, and some kegels. I often don't stick to the plan and do everything, but it's a goal to strive for!

For food, I try to make every bite count nutritionally and avoid "empty" calories. I'll have a small treat every few days but not daily. I've been eating a lot of salads (I <3 romaine lettuce) and making green smoothies. I'm also trying to meal prep a bit, but I have a teen boy in the house so anything I make often gets swiped before I can get it into the refrigerator!! (Although if I can get it in the refrigerator he'll leave it alone; he hates leftovers.) If I can keep some chicken on hand, or some type of lean protein, then I've got the basis for a meal. Hubby frequently makes salads and I can throw some chicken on that for a very satisfying lunch or dinner. We don't eat together as a family much anymore, which breaks my heart, but we're all running in different directions all the time with very different schedules, so we aren't usually all at home at meal time. Add our differing diets (one vegan, one vegetarian, one soy intolerant and sulfa allergic, one full on carnivore, and one who will eat anything, oh and 4 of us are lactose intolerant, just to make things interesting) and it's really getting impossible to plan meals for all of us anyway. We mostly all fend for ourselves now, which is getting very trying. Five people all cooking their own meals every day makes a lot of mess in the kitchen and is super inefficient, but what can you do? Almost forgot- we also cook a "top dressing" for the dogs too, so they get kibble with some type of cooked meat on top for two meals per dog per day. ARGHHHH!!!

So that's where things stand now. A constantly messy kitchen, but I'm losing weight again and I CAN do it! I'll check back with my progress every now and again, and maybe some of my recipes.

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Our Vegan Thanksgiving

After a couple of crazy busy weeks, with a lot of time away from home chaperoning field trips, I knew I would be too wiped out to handle Thanksgiving, so I handed it off to The Eldest. The Eldest is currently vegan and decided to do a vegan dinner for all of us; she was very excited and put a lot of effort and planning into the meal, and it turned out beautifully! And DELICIOUS!! I didn't miss the turkey at all. She started out with a "cheez" plate of really yummy nut based cheeses, along with fixins' like apple based "honey", fruit, crackers, and so forth. That was followed by butternut squash soup and the rest of the meal; I don't have the names for every recipe, but it was all very fancy and very tasty. Here are some pics:


The "cheez" plate; many of these are from Kite Hill, which makes delicious nut based faux cheese. We also had a tart from Kite Hill which was also most yummy.


She's got the presentation thing down! Apple slices and pomegranate seeds on a bed of spinach leaves, drizzled with vegan faux "honee" that is just as good as honey from bees. There's no weird after taste like you get with agave, that other honey substitute. (I detest agave.)


Stuffing; I don't have a link to this recipe.


Vegan mac and cheese in the back; vegan mashed potatoes in the front. I helped out with the 'taters and we just kind of made the recipe up as we went along. Martha Jr. started working on them and put in a little vanilla flavored almond milk (she was supposed to put in regular unflavored almond milk but grabbed the wrong stuff by mistake, but it worked!) and soy free Earth Balance. I added a LOT more Earth Balance, which I melted for a few seconds in the microwave, and veggie broth. (We use 365 brand from Whole Foods.) Salt and pepper to taste. I kept mushing it up with the potato masher and adding more stuff until I had the consistency I wanted and it tasted yummy! Another ingredient to include to make mashed potatoes delicious is mayo but I didn't put it in this time. We are using a new brand of mayo called Just Mayo but I was too lazy to open up the new jar; it's really good and soy free, which is good for me because I try to avoid soy and good for The Eldest because it's vegan.


Close up of the vegan mac and cheez. I'll try to add the link to the recipe later. It was OK; not as good as regular homemade mac and cheese, but better than the stuff out of the box. It was a little dry but flavorful.


The whole table!


The main dish, Vegetables Wellington! This was a delicious vegan take on Beef Wellington, all wrapped up in phyllo dough. (The Eldest swears she will never work with phyllo again; it was challenging, shall we say.) The dish was very elaborate, involving multiple steps and recipes-within-the-recipe, and she pulled it off like a champ. It wasn't wrapped up as tightly as the one in the picture that accompanies the recipe but that didn't affect the taste one bit, and it was quite impressive as the centerpiece on the table! (I wish I'd thought to suggest that she use a spray olive oil instead of trying to brush each piece with a pastry brush; I think that would have made things easier, but of course that light bulb went off well after the meal was done!!)

The Eldest did an incredible job on this meal, from planning all the way through execution. She was impressively organized too- she assigned jobs to her dad and Martha, Jr. and had the ingredients for their dishes in paper bags with the recipes stapled to the outside, then she lined up the bags on the kitchen table so everything was ready to go. She even shopped and paid for everything!! I am pleased as punch with her and so proud of all of the hard work and creativity that went in to this meal. This is one young adult who can do anything she sets her mind to, that's for sure.



Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Common Core Rant

A friend of mine posted yet another anti-Common Core meme on Facebook today, and here's my rant in response:

This is so ironic to me. Everyone is all nuts about STEM this and STEM that, which includes the M for MATH, all because those are where the jobs are. School is supposed to prepare kids for jobs, right, and everyone wants their kids prepared to work in tech, right, because those jobs pay well and all? OK, so then the tech companies sit down with... whomever they sat down with, and come up with a MATH program that will prepare kids for TECH JOBS, by making them better at math, more able to see how numbers work instead of rote memorization, and they call it Common Core, and now it gets all politicized and seen as some horrible liberal agenda, when it isn't, it's just the TECH COMPANIES saying "hey, this is how you can prepare your kids to work in our field". And now it gets distorted and mis-represented and spun as something bad, when the entire goal is to prepare kids for STEM jobs! Just sayin'...

Saturday, August 29, 2015

Why We Should Teach Kids Not to Curse

Cursing is everywhere these days! It seems like everyone is cursing all the time. On several occasions I've even heard parents cursing like sailors in front of young kids, and kids cursing in front of parents with no correction from them whatsoever. Now, don't get me wrong, I can curse with the best of them given the right set of circumstances, so I'm no puritan when it comes down to it, but I didn't curse in front of my kids until they were much older, and then only once or twice for the shock value of it. (Usually to make them so horrified they would laugh, more than anything.) I was always a stickler about it when they were young, and here's why. Cursing is not acceptable in many, many situations. It's not acceptable at school, in front of people you don't know well, in front of younger children, and, depending on the workplace, at work. By teaching my kids not to swear in front of me, I am teaching them how to filter their language appropriately so that when they are at school, or on the job, or in front of young kids, they'll automatically apply that filter that keeps them from cursing. It will just be second nature to them. If you don't believe in teaching kids not to curse you are hurting them in the long run. They'll get in trouble in school and on the job when they don't know how to apply that language filter and they'll offend people without even realizing it.

A story comes to mind from this- remember the book and movie "Julie and Julia", about the blogger who cooked her way through Julia Child's "Mastering The Art of French Cooking"? At one point Julie, the blogger, learns that Julia Child does not think well of her and she laments that it's probably because of all the cursing on her blog. The cursing cost her!

One more story about my son. A couple of years ago when he was maybe 9 or 10 he was outside playing with some kids in the neighborhood. They didn't know I could hear them from the open window, but it was like they were in the same room. One of the older boys said "sh*t" for some reason or the other, so my son pipes up with "don't say sh*t, that's a bad word". That gave me such a chuckle because, by correcting the other boy this way, he had to say the word too!

So parents, teach your kids not to curse!! Make them clean up their language around you so they'll know how to clean up their language when you're not around; they'll thank you for it one day.